welcome to emily’s gift of hope


We are deeply sorry about the loss of your loved child and baby. The pain you are feeling now, is excruciating. Our wish is to give you hope, at such a devastating and painful time. Although, everyone’s experience is different, we personally have endured the loss of babies, and know the pain. Whether you have suffered an ectopic pregnancy, a blighted ovum, a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or an infant death, you are experiencing the loss of your loved baby. There are many decisions that you are now having to make, things that you never thought you would have to ever think about during this lifetime. And sometimes, these decisions have to be made quickly. We hope that our support and resources here, can help make a very sad time in your life, a little less overwhelming.

If you have just learned that your baby has died or will die, please visit our Support page, and read the “Immediate Support and Help” section. This page also offers some help for funeral and ceremony planning, counseling in the days to come, how family and friends can help, and more. With that, please visit our entire website, as time allows, as all of the pages were made to help you through the immediate days of losing your loved baby and the days following.

We would like to share very personal and touching stories written by bereaved mothers and fathers themselves, to honor and pay tribute to their babies that they have lost. We want to help others not feel alone in their grief and sadness, as well. These stories can be found on our Remembrance page under “Personal Stories about Our Babies”. Here is just a part from one of those stories:

Nicole and Mark, from Ohio, share the story of their loved son, Noah Robert, whom they lost 18 weeks into their pregnancy in July 2013. Nicole went alone to her routine 18-week ultrasound appointment, and was deeply saddened to find out that their baby died. To this day, they were never given a reason why, by the medical community, as to how it could have happened.

This may be a difficult question to answer, but describe those hours, those minutes, that you found out that your loved son, Noah, had died.

Nicole: I think that it is safe to say we remember the big events that have happened in our lives. I remember every moment of my wedding, each delivery with my four beautiful children, the moment that I met my husband, and all others. However, the moment I learned about losing Noah, time seemed to have stopped. It was a normal day for me. I had just reached my 18 week point with Noah, and was going for my ultrasound. I had dropped my two oldest kids off at school and the two younger ones were at home with my mother-in-law. The moment I walked into my doctor’s office, I was welcomed with warm smiles as always. I went back to my room, and waited for my doctor to come in. The moments I heard the words come out of  my doctor’s mouth, “I’m so sorry, there is no heartbeat,” I didn’t move.

To read more of Nicole’s words as well as her husband, Mark’s, please go to our Remembrance page. Their story can be found under “Personal Stories about Our Babies,” and further, “Mark and Nicole – Noah’s Story”.

HELP DURING COVID-19


During this unprecedented time, we need self care more than ever. Join Return to Zero: H.O.P.E. for safe, private online gatherings specifically for the RTZ HOPE community. Please click on link below for free meditation and community support. (They do ask for a small monetary donation to help with costs – Thank you.)

https://rtzhope.org/community

Words of Support


MAKE A LIST OF GOALS.
  • While you should not set a particular time and course for your healing, it may help you to have made other life goals for the coming year.
  • Make a list of short-term goals for the next three months. Perhaps some of the goals could have to do with mourning activities (e.g. make a memory book).
  • Also make a list of long-term goals for the next year.
  • Be both realistic and compassionate with yourself as you consider what's feasible and feels good and what will only add too much stress to your life.

CARPE DIEM: Write a list of goals for this week. Your goals may be as simple as: Go to work every day. Tell John I love him once a day. Take a walk on Tuesday night.

-Weekly encouragement taken from: Healing Your Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas, By: Alan D. Wolfelt, PH.D.

1 in 4


In the United States, nearly 1 in 4 babies will die before birth or during their first year after being born. This means that every year, approximately:

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  • 900,000 babies die in the first trimester of pregnancy
  • 213,000 babies die in the second trimester of pregnancy
  • 13,000 babies die in the third trimester of pregnancy
  • 19,000 babies die in the first month of life after birth
  • 10,000 babies die between one month and one year of age

National Vital Statistics Reports, Volume 60, Number 8 August 28, 2012

NILMDTS Remembrance Walk


Saturday, 6.27.2020 • 8:30am • Columbus, OH

The NILMDTS (Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep) Remembrance Walk, “Our Journey Together” is for parents, family members and friends to come together to remember a precious baby who has died due to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, neonatal or any type of pregnancy or infant loss.

Click here for more information 

The Hope and Loss Support Group


Join us for a supportive evening where you can share your stories of the babies you carry in your heart and love dearly with other bereaved parents. We gather at The Avon Lake Public Library in Avon Lake, OH the third Tuesday of every month. More information can be found under our Events page.

The purpose in writing this blog is to help other parents not feel so alone in their sadness. That the feelings that they feel are real, and are normal. I, Anne, mother of Emily and Michael, journal my journey since losing our daughter and son. And the life-changing views on life itself since those very sad days in February.

REMEMBER OUR BABIES 10.15.2020

In October 1988, over 30 years ago, President Ronald Reagan proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Saturday, October 15, 2020 is a nationally recognized day to remember our babies that we have lost during pregnancy or infancy. At 7pm, in all time zones, we ask that you light a candle to remember your loved baby, and for all of our loved babies worldwide. All over the world, this is being done, so that there will a continual light on this day. More information can be found about this day at: http://www.october15th.com/.

PLIDA Conference 2020 – Chicago


PLIDA (Pregnancy Loss and Infant Death Alliance) will be hosting a weekend long conference from September 30 – October 3, 2020. In this unique experience, a network of individuals come together to reach out, develop, and grow the support in which bereaved parents receive. Many of these people are bereaved parents themselves, and include: medical professionals, book authors, parent advocates trying to make a difference, and more. Classes are set up ahead of time and you can choose which ones to attend in advance, and there are also other topic-related events during the weekend. Please click on this link to be directed to more information on PLIDA and its 2020 conference being held in Chicago, IL.

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If you have any comments or suggestions, please email us: emilysgiftofhope@ymail.com. Thank you, and we look forward to hearing from you.

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