The desire and need to remember our loved babies, is very much a part of us from the beginning. On this page, you will find a variety of different ways to do just that from home, to locally in the Cleveland, OH area, and then to the national level. There are some organizations and their websites listed here as well that can help you create more keepsakes of your baby. Included here too, we have a section on remembering our babies, where you can have your baby’s name added to our memory book. If you would like your baby added, please email us at email@example.com. Also, there are personal stories written by both the bereaved mother and father about their loved and missed baby in our “Personal Stories about Our Babies” section.
Honoring Your Baby from Home
There are many ways that you can honor and remember your baby from your home. Here are some suggestions of things that you could do, and they may cause you to think of ways not mentioned here:
Plant a garden or a special tree. Here you can find special flowers such as your baby’s birth month flower, or a flower with unique meaning to you. Also, The Rock Pile has graciously supported our new project titled: Michael’s Tree Project in memory of our Michael. At their Avon, OH location you can purchase a remembrance tree for your baby or babies at a discounted rate of 20% off, year-round plus free delivery locally. Please contact our nonprofit, emily’s gift of hope, for more details.
Visit and find special momentoes to remember your loved baby. Many greenhouses and landscaping companies carry a good selection of angel statues. In the Cleveland area, The Rock Pile in Avon, OH, has a good amount of angel statues to add to your garden. They also have stones that you can personalize. Also, church stores have angel statues, prayer cards, pictures and much more. In the Cleveland area, The Galilee Bookstore, on the grounds of The Church of St. Clarence North Olmsted carries all of these mentioned, and much more.
Have a balloon release. This can be done from your home, cemetery, or a place that is close to your heart, on special anniversaries, due dates, or just because.
Create something to celebrate and remember your babyon their anniversary, or during the holidays. Such as baking cupcakes on their birthday or special day, or making an angel ornament around Christmas.
Place a remembrance photo, poem, or a special message in your local paperon an anniversary, or just because. This can usually be found in the obituary section of the newspaper.
Send out birth announcements. This can be filled with mixed emotions, if you baby died in utero, or shortly there after. You could even include your baby’s ultrasound picture on it, or another picture that you feel comfortable in sharing. The people you send this birth announcement to may be even a smaller list than you imagined when the thought of birth announcements first entered your thoughts while pregnant, and that is okay. If you are worried about the customer service end of it, while processing, just let them know what you are doing ahead of time. We have had pictures of our baby, who died in utero, reprinted at local stores. They were very kind, and you could feel their sincerity and sympathy with our experience and processing our pictures.
Purchase a brick at a garden/park or church with your baby’s nameengraved on it. Sometimes one does not have the baby’s remains, so this gives you a special place to “be” with your beloved baby. You could also buy a brick or stone and have it engraved for a garden at your own home. Also, something to keep in mind, if you do not have a place at your own home to recognize your baby, many cemeteries, if not all have a baby’s section. Sometimes within in this area, there is a special dedication memorial or monument to recognize all babies that have died. Also, some hospitals, mostly Catholic, bury all babies remains, even if the parents decline that they want to take their baby’s remains home with them. Contact your hospital, if years later, this is your situation. They are usually buried in the baby section of cemeteries. Just know that not all hospitals do this.
Hospice of Western Reserve, in the Cleveland, OH area, has a beautiful place called, Vista Walk, for you to “be with your baby”. Here, you can purchase a brick or garden furniture, to have your baby’s name inscribed. This area overlooks Lake Erie, and is open anytime for meditation, reflection, and remembrance. For more information, call: 216.383.3712. Or if you would like to visit the walk and gardens: David Simpson Hospice House, 300 East 185th Street, Cleveland, OH 44119.
Request a mass to be said for your baby. Many churches have almost all days available for you to reserve for loved ones. You could also have a candle lit at church or the cemetery on special days.
Volunteer to do something special for your baby. If you know how to sew or knit, many hospitals have volunteers that knit all sizes in hats for babies, no matter how old your baby is. Or if there is a local fundraiser baby-related, you could volunteer your time.
Start something. Sometimes going through this sad experience can bring with it something positive. You may realize that there is a need for bereaved parents that is not being met. Whether it is making something to remember our babies, starting a fundraiser yourself, or even writing a book, ideas may come to you.
Donate money to a special place close to your heart. There are many websites listed on our site that are very appreciative of help. Please be sure to check out the websites listed to the right, “Help Other Causes”. Our Resources page also, have numerous places to support.
Local Events in the Cleveland, OH Area
Many towns and cities nationwide hold events throughout the year. Please inquire with you local hospital or church, to find ways in which you can honor your loved baby. We have listed these local events, in the Cleveland, OH area, by month, to help with navigation purposes:
Mother’s Day Tea at Cornerstone of Hope. This event is held at Cornerstone of Hope, which is a grieving center for children, adolescents, and adults. Mother’s Day Tea is a free event for mothers that have lost babies to miscarriage, stillbirth, or during infancy. At the event, mothers can enjoy tea and brunch, and gift bags provided by Legacy of Love, a support system for mothers that have lost babies. Contact Cornerstone of Hope for more information: 216.524.HOPE(4673).
Butterfly Release at Cornerstone of Hope. Everyone is welcome. This yearly event is to honor and remember loved ones, and to release a butterfly in their honor. The butterflies are released all at once at the end of the ceremony. Butterflies are nature’s ultimate symbol of change, transformation, and beauty. Releasing butterflies for a loved one is a unique way to honor and remember them. Contact Cornerstone of Hope for more details: 216.527.HOPE (4673).
OCTOBER **Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Candle Lighting and Remembrance event hosted by The FEEL Group. This is a special ceremony event held usually on a Sunday, near the day of October 15th. A ceremony is performed, and then a candle lighting is done for each individual baby that has been lost. You will receive a special present to take home with you that will have your baby’s name on it. Contact The FEEL Group at: 216.476.6965 for more details.
Candle Lighting and Remembrance event hosted by Cornerstone of Hope. This is a special ceremony event, usually held on the evening of October 15th. Here there will speakers, and music to remember our babies. At the conclusion, bereaved mothers and fathers are called up to light their candles in memory of their babies. These candles are engraved with your baby’s name and birth and death dates. Refreshments are served as well. Contact Cornerstone of Hope at: 216.524.HOPE (4673) for more details.
Worldwide Candle Lighting event hosted by Compassionate Friends. On December 8th, at 7pm, around the globe, candles are lit to “honor all children who have died too soon”. You are invited to bring copies of pictures of your child, poems, or other items to post on the memory board. There will be refreshments, and weather permitting, a release of candle lanterns. The event is free and open to all regardless of faith or no faith background. For more information, visit: www.compassionatefriends.org or call Westlake UMC at 440.871.3088. This is an annual event hosted by Compassionate Friends, whose mission is to support families after a child has died.
National Organizations Where You Can Recognize Your Baby
The Shrine of the Holy Innocents. Words from their website: “Often children who have died before birth have no grave or headstone, and sometimes not even a name. At The Church of the Holy Innocents, we invite you to name your child(ren) and to have the opportunity to have your baby’s name inscribed in our ‘Book of Life’. Here, a candle is always lit in their memory. All day long people stop to pray. On the first Monday, of every month, our 12:15pm mass is celebrated in honor of these children and for the comfort of their families. We pray that you will find peace in knowing that your child(ren) will be remembered at the Shrine and honored by all that pray here. We will inscribe the names of babies who have died before an at birth in our Book of Life, and as always, we invite you to visit the Shrine if you are in New York City”. Please click here to go to the website for more information.
The Miracle of Life Rosary Garden. A sacred place to honor the unborn, The Miracle of Life Rosary Garden is located in Cross Plains, Wisconsin. They provide a place of profound hope and joy for the families of babies that have died before birth. From their website: “Every human life is sacred from conception until natural death. We recognize and honor this truth with the construction and dedication of The Miracle of Life Rosary Garden. From the choice of statues to the shape of the walkway and fountain base, from the colors of the flowers to the placement of the planters, every element of the Rosary Garden has a specific meaning and purpose”. You can purchase a brick from the garden in honor of your baby, and even preview it before you order. After your brick has been placed in the garden, you can locate its location from your own computer. Please visit the website for more details.
Remembering Our Babies
Our babies will always be close to our hearts. Let us remember them always. Here we honor:
Alexander Nicholas Bartko, 28 w, 7.25-29-1977
Sarah Susanne Bartko, 28 w, 7.25-27.1977
Thomas Christian Boutall, 13w, 5.19.2014
Matthew Thomas Boutall, 15 w, 10.30.2014
Lucas Patrick Hardman, 5.21-6.24.2011
Jacob Kealoha-Lopez, 10 w, 12.28.2014
Joseph Alika Kealoha-Lopez, 35.4 w, 11.16.2017
Emily Anne Morrison, 16 w, 2.8.2013
Michael John Morrison, 15.1 w, 2.12.2014
Noah Robert Pirelle, 18 w, 7.15.2013
Aurora Leah Ridge, 22 w, 5.14.2019
Christopher Thomas Whiley, 15 w, 6.7.2012
Personal Stories about Our Babies
Here, bereaved parents honor and show their love for their babies that have died. Bereaved mothers and fathers share their personal stories about the initial days of losing their babies, and the days that followed. In doing so, they hope to bring hope to you in your sad and difficult days. Please click on a story below to read more.
Organizations Creating Keepsakes
Having tangible items to remember your baby, is sometimes what we need. Finding a baby book at the local baby store, is not as easy as you make think it would be and should be. The first two organizations listed below have created baby books to remember your baby, no matter how long they lived on this earth. They are specifically made for mothers and fathers that have lost during pregnancy or infancy. Also below are organizations that have these keepsakes: jewelry, footprint stampers, bears remembrance photographs, and cards.
Infinite Hugs, www.infinitehugs.com
Meg Anger, locally in Cleveland, OH, created these books in honor of her family members and friends that have lost their babies. These baby books she makes are books for babies that left the world too soon. They are designed as a complete set but could just be a starting point on the journey of remembrance and healing – a tangible item to hold besides what you already hold dear in your heart. Knowing that every situation is different, this book has pages that can be removed. Comes in the colors of: green, pink, and blue. Please go to her website for more details.
I Will Hold You in My Heart Forever,
A beautiful hardback book, that has adjustable pages inside of it. Mother, Michelle Murray created these books following the death of her son, Tyler Jason Murray, who was born with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and was with us for seven precious weeks. He was born on January 21, 2006 and lived until March 11, 2006. Sections included in books include: In the Beginning, Pregnancy Moments, Family Tree, The World Around You, Your Illness, Taking Care of You, Final Resting Place, The Day You Died, and more. Again, these sections can be taken out, at your discretion. For more information, please go to the website above.
Molly Bears, www.mollybears.com
Bridget, Molly Bears founder, created this organization in August 2010. Through the loss of her Molly Christine, at 34 weeks, on May 30, 2010, she created a baby that weighed as much as her Molly, and slept with it at night. She now creates these bears for other angel families. They are in 50 states and 13 countries. Order forms open the 30th of the every month. Please visit their website for more details.
The Seashore of Remembrance,
Carly Marie created her artwork in remembrance of her son, Christian, who was born still January 26, 2007. The Seashore of Remembrance pays tribute to lost babies through photography and artwork on a beautiful beach called Mullaloo in Perth, Western Australia. It gives families the opportunity to honor a loved baby who has passed away in a unique and meaningful way. Carly Marie inscribes the names in the sand under sunsets and draws butterflies for babies of any age or gestation that have passed away. Please visit the website to view her artwork, and to also see more selections to remember your baby.
Help Other Causes
Love for Lucas
Nicole and Brian Hardman created Love for Lucas in memory of their baby boy, Lucas Patrick Hardman. On June 24, 2011, Lucas passed away from a severe form of Epidermolysis Bullosa, or EB. Lucas received his angel wings at just five weeks old, but his imprint on this world still remains today. Their mission is to inspire others with their son’s story of courage and love, and to create a world free of EB. Love for Lucas is a local non-profit, in Cleveland, OH, that does an annual blanket drive in January to collect blankets for other EB baby patients in the NICU for a local hospital. Having a soft blanket is very comforting to EB babies and their families.